Once an old man spread rumors that his neighbor was a thief. As a result, the young man was arrested. Days later the young man was proven innocent.
After being released he sued the old man for wrongly accusing him. In the court, the old man told the Judge: “They were just comments, didn’t harm anyone.”
The judge told the old man: “Write all the things you said about him on a piece of paper. Cut them up and on the way home, throw the pieces of paper out. Tomorrow, come back to hear the sentence.”
Next day, the judge told the old man: “Before the hearing starts, go out and gather all the pieces of paper that you threw out yesterday.”
The old man said: “I can’t do that! The wind spread them and I won’t know where to find them.”
The judge then replied: “The same way, simple comments may destroy the honor of a man to such an extent that one is not able to fix it. If you can’t speak well of someone, rather don’t say anything.”
Giving comments about others have several disadvantages:
1- we become slaves of our words what we have uttered.
2- We lose our own respect in society/colleagues because of doing consistent character assassination.
3- Most of time, we are not sure whether we are right or wrong because being human our judgment can be wrong so we fall in the category of liars.
4- Negative trait of our personality becomes prominent which becomes of character in the long run.