Giving Comments about Others

Once an old man spread rumors that his neighbor was a thief. As a result, the young man was arrested. Days later the young man was proven innocent.

 

After being released he sued the old man for wrongly accusing him. In the court, the old man told the Judge: “They were just comments, didn’t harm anyone.”

The judge told the old man: “Write all the things you said about him on a piece of paper. Cut them up and on the way home, throw the pieces of paper out. Tomorrow, come back to hear the sentence.”

Next day, the judge told the old man: “Before the hearing starts, go out and gather all the pieces of paper that you threw out yesterday.”

The old man said: “I can’t do that! The wind spread them and I won’t know where to find them.”

The judge then replied: “The same way, simple comments may destroy the honor of a man to such an extent that one is not able to fix it. If you can’t speak well of someone, rather don’t say anything.”

 

Giving comments about others have several disadvantages:

1-     we become slaves of our words what we have uttered.

2-    We lose our own respect in society/colleagues because of doing consistent character assassination.

3-    Most of time, we are not sure whether we are right or wrong because being human our judgment can be wrong so we fall in the category of liars.

4-    Negative trait of our personality becomes prominent which becomes of character in the long run.

Six Attributes of Courage

Courage is something that everybody wants — an attribute of good character that makes us worthy of respect.  

Yet courage is not just physical bravery. History books tell colorful tales of social activists, such as Martin Luther King and Nelson Mandela, who chose to speak out against injustice at great personal risk. Entrepreneurs such as Steve Jobs and Walt Disney, who took financial risks to follow their dreams and innovate are like modern-day knights, exemplifying the rewards and public accolades that courage can bring. There are different types of courage, ranging from physical  strength and endurance to mental stamina and innovation. The below quotes demonstrate six different ways in which we define courage.Which are most relevant to you? In the last section, i present an exercise to help you define and harness your own courage.

(1)  Feeling Fear Yet Choosing to Act

Fear and courage are brothers. — Proverb

I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear — Nelson Mandela

There is no living thing that is not afraid when it faces danger. The true courage is in facing danger when you are afraid. — L.Frank Baum, The Wonderful Wizard of Oz

Being terrified but going ahead and doing what must be done—that’s courage. The one who feels no fear is a fool, and the one who lets fear rule him is a coward. ― Piers Anthony

Courage is about doing what you’re afraid to do. There can be no courage unless you’re scared. Have the courage to act instead of react.” — Oliver Wendell Holmes

(2) Following Your Heart

“Passion is what drives us crazy, what makes us do extraordinary things, to discover, to challenge ourselves. Passion is and should always be the heart of courage.” ― Midori Komatsu

And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” — Steve Jobs, Stanford commencement speech, June 2005

To dare is to lose one’s footing momentarily. To not dare is to lose oneself.
 — Soren Kierkegaard

“It takes courage … to endure the sharp pains of self discovery rather than choose to take the dull pain of unconsciousness that would last the rest of our lives.” ― Marianne Williamson, “Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of ‘A Course in Miracles'”

(3) Persevering in the Face of Adversity

When we are afraid we ought not to occupy ourselves with endeavoring to prove that there is no danger, but in strengthening ourselves to go on in spite of the danger. — Mark Rutherford
A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is braver five minutes longer. — Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803 – 1882)

Most of our obstacles would melt away if, instead of cowering before them, we should make up our minds to walk boldly through them — Orison Swett Marden (1850-1924)

Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the   day that says I’ll try again tomorrow. — Mary Anne Radmacher

“Go back?” he thought. “No good at all! Go sideways? Impossible! Go forward? Only thing to do! On we go!” So up he got, and trotted along with his little sword held in front of him and one hand feeling the wall, and his heart all of a patter and a pitter.” ― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Hobbit

“It’s not the size of the dog in the fight, it’s the size of the fight in the dog.” — Mark Twain

(4) Standing Up For What Is Right

Sometimes standing against evil is more important than defeating it. The greatest heroes stand because it is right to do so, not because they believe they will walk away with their lives. Such selfless courage is a victory in itself ― N.D. Wilson, Dandelion Fire

Speak your mind, even if your voice shakes — Maggie Kuhn, Social Activist

From caring comes courage. — Lao Tzu

Anger is the prelude to courage. ― Eric Hoffer

(5) Expanding Your Horizons; Letting Go of the Familiar

Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore. — Lord Chesterfield

“This world demands the qualities of youth; not a time of life but a state of mind, a temper of the will, a quality of the imagination, a predominance of courage over timidity, of the appetite for adventure over the life of ease.” ― Robert F. Kennedy

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage. — Anais Nin

(6) Facing Suffering  With Dignity or Faith…

“There is no need to be ashamed of tears, for tears bear witness that a man has the greatest of courage, the courage to suffer.” — Frank

The ideal man bears the accidents of life with dignity and grace, making the best of circumstances. — Aristotle

Until the day of his death, no man can be sure of his courage. — Jean Anoulh

A man of courage is also full of faith. — Marcus Tullius Cicero

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201208/the-six-attributes-courage

Every hour of TV you watch shortens your life by 22mins

Melbourne: Couch potatoes, watch out! Every hour that you spend in front of the ‘idiot box’ could be taking 22 minutes off your life, a new study has warned. Australian researchers have found that watching television could be shortening your life by 4.8 years.

    Researchers have found that for every hour of television viewed by a person over the age of 25, their life expectancy is reduced by 22 minutes. The study was based on an average six hours viewing per day, compared to a person who watches no TV, News.com.au reported.     Using data from the National Bureau of Statistics and the Australian Diabetes, Obesity and Lifestyle Study, the researchers generated life-expectancy tables based on the viewing habits of average Australians.     “TV viewing time may be associated with a loss of life that is comparable to other major chronic disease risk factors such as physical inactivity, smoking and obesity,” the study found. “These findings suggest that substantial loss of life may be associated with prolonged TV viewing time among adults,” it said. The research claims that a sedentary lifestyle is as bad for health as smoking and obesity, because of the dangers posed by inactivity.

Camels Haircut- an Art

Every January, thousands of visitors go to Bikaner, India to see the famous Camel festival. It begins with the procession ofbeautifully decorated camels, a competition for best decorated camel, fur cutting design, camel milking and the best camel hair cut.

Next day, the fleetest camels of the region take part in the camel races. According to photographer Osakabe Yasuo, preparing camel’s hair for the competition may take up to three years to create. First,the hair needs to be grown for two years. Then the hair is trimmed into intricate patterns and dyed for the dramatic effect you see below.

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Fresh Fruits for Hale N Healthy

Fresh Fruits for Hale N Healthy

Our body requires a variety of proteins, carbohydrates, vitamins, calories, fat, enzymes, trace elements, antioxidants for its metabolism and most importantly to enhance the immune system against the diseases and strengthen our body. To get the optimum health benefits, it is recommended to eat variety of fresh organic fruits  to furnish our body with essential nutrients. So, here are some captivating pictures of mouth watering fresh fruits along with the information of its benefits.
Cherries: Cherries have the highest content of iron and disease fighting antioxidants compared to other fruits. The fruits contain vitamin C and E, iron, fiber, potassium and magnesium. It is understood through the researchers from Michigan that cherries can reduce cholesterol level, insulin levels and blood sugar, besides raising the antioxidant capacity of the blood. Every 100 grams of fresh cherries have higher percentage of vitamin A which is five times more than apples and grapes and twenty fresh cherries may keep us away from depression mood.
Grapes: According to Cancer Research Institute of London, grapes are good for women. They help them to avoid the painful wound related with breast cancer treatment.
Grapes also protect heart and blood vessels against oxidative tissue damage. Hypertension could be controlled by consuming one cup of grape juice and one cup of celery juice each with warm water three times a day for twenty days. Give a break of 5-7 days after 20 days and start the treatment freshly for another 20 days.
Oranges: Orange is one of most popular fruits in the world. It is a citrus fruit with excellent source of vitamin C. They are also good source of dietary fiber, vitamin A, B, B1, calcium and potassium. By consuming oranges frequently we can reduce the risk of cancers and heart diseases. Oranges containing the smooth textured skin will have higher juice content than those that are spongy or lighter in weight. Small oranges are juicier than the larger ones.
Grapefruit: Grapefruit has lot of natural fiber and reduces the blood pressure, blood sugar, cholesterol, insulin, cardiovascular diseases, etc. It also promotes salivary and gastric digestion, eases constipation, stimulates appetite, maintains the health of intestines, etc. Infact, this is the best fruit to protect us from diseases like dysentery, diarrhea, typhus, etc. It also induces the production of enzymes to prevent from cancer.
Patients suffering from diabetics are advised to eat three grapefruits three times everyday to improve their diabetic condition. The purple grape fruit with plenty of antioxidant compounds is recommended for great health benefits. It protects from liver and kidney disorders and also improves skin form.
Strawberries (Arbutus unedu): Strawberry is the most delicious and nutritious fruit that has the ability to remove harmful toxin in the blood. This fruit is recommended for constipation, high blood pressure, skin cancer, sluggish liver, rheumatism etc. It is yet another fruit which is consumed as skin cleansing food. The strawberry is cut into half and rubbed on teeth and gums to remove tartar from the teeth and to strengthen and heal the gums. In order to dissolve the tartar the juice has to remain on teeth as long as possible and later the mouth has to be rinsed with warm water.
Raspberries: Raspberries are the most delicious and healthy fruit with vitamins, antioxidants, manganese and fiber. Fiber helps slow the digestive process so that we do not feel hungry quickly. Manganese is a trace mineral that helps keep our metabolic rate high, which in turn burns fat. Its seed oil has a natural sun protection factor. It contains high quantity of polyphenolic compounds and ellagic acid, which are known to restrain cancer cells. The anthocyanins present in raspberry will reduce the risk of heart disease and also delay the effects of aging.
Banana : Banana has a high amount of carbohydrate that can be transformed into energy in our body. Its nutrient benefits our heart, kidney, muscle, nerve and bones. For the people suffering with symptoms like potassium deficiency which include mind fogginess, nervous shaking, body tiredness, excessive perspiration of their limbs, etc., can be improved by eating banana.
Apple: Modern scientific studies discovered that an “An Apple a Day keeps the Doctor Away”. While diabetes patients are supposed to eat sour apple, people suffering from cardiovascular and obesity should eat sweet apple. Eating a ripe apple is a good remedy to cure constipation. The powerful antioxidants and anthocyanin found in red apples prevent us from cancer development and cardiovascular disease.
Blackberries: The latest study in UK says that blackberries contain vitamins and antioxidant compounds much higher than apple and strawberry. We can protect ourselves from cardiovascular diseases, high blood pressure, cancer development and brain diseases from the nutrients and trace elements found in blackberries.
Blueberries: Blueberries are the finest fruits to prevent high blood pressure and weakness. The antioxidants in blueberries help us to maintain brain health, strengthen our heart, fight against cancer diseases and prevent chronic diseases related with the aging process.
Custard Apple: Custard apple contains Vitamin C which is again an anti-oxidant and helps in neutralizing free radicals. For treating diarrhea and dysentery, custard apple can be dried, crushed and used in its unripe form. Vitamin A present in this fruit is good for eyes, hair and maintaining healthy skin. The low fat levels in this fruit also help us to prevent from heart diseases. High source of dietary fiber in custard apple also helps in digestion.
Apricot: Apricot is a fruit that has vitamins and minerals and benefit our eyes, heart, liver, stomach, nerve and immune system. It protects our heart, stops the cough, nourishes our lungs, strengthens our body and removes skin disorder, stimulates the blood circulation which helps us with flawless and glowing skin. Eating one or two fresh apricots before the meal helps those who are suffering from constipation to digest their food. This apart, it is a good diet for people suffering from anemia, tuberculosis and asthma.
Mangoes: Mango is the most popular and versatile fruit that comes in numerous varieties all having their own unique flavor, texture, color, and aroma. Mangoes are the good source of vitamins, minerals and anti-oxidants and contain very few proteins, fats and calories like any other fruits.
According to Unani Medicine System the benefits of mangoes are as follows:
Vitamin C and Calcium in mango tightens the capillary vessels and prevents oder cures bleedings of inner parts. Regular consumption of mango makes the complexion fair and the skin soft and shining. Those suffering from diarrhea have to take sun dried mango leaves powder in half a teaspoon with water for 2-3 times a day. Burnt ashes of mango leaves if applied on burnt parts give quick relief. To cure fever, apply paste of mango roots on palms and soles.
It is advisable for a pregnant woman to eat one mango a day because calcium and magnesium of mango relaxes the muscles, relieves stress and prevents abortion.
Dried mango seeds are the best as toothpaste that strengthens the gums and helps in curing dental problems like foul smell.
Plums: Plum is related to family of cherries and peaches. There are various varieties of plums throughout the world available in colors like red, purple, green, blue-black, yellow etc. Plums are the good source of vitamin A, vitamin B2, vitamin C, potassium and fiber. By eating plums regularly it produces more iron in the body which ultimately leads to better blood circulation thus resulting in growth of healthy tissues.
Jackfruit: Jackfruit is a good source of potassium and Vitamin C. Jackfruit root is not only good for treating various skin problems but also beneficial for people suffering from asthma. This fruit containing phytonutrients helps in lowering of blood pressure, antioxidant, anti-ulcer, anti-ageing and anti-cancer.
Pineapple: Pineapple is a tropical fruit containing proteolytic enzyme bromelain helps in digestion of protein. Mainly it can prevent from forming blood clot due to its bromelain content. Fresh pineapple juice is used in removal of intestinal worms, to combat diphtheria and other infection of throat and other parts of the body. It also prevents morning sickness and constipation. Rich in Vitamin C, it protects our body from major diseases like heart disease, diabetes and various cancers. It not maintains good eye-health, it also prevents plague and keeps teeth healthy, keeps skin beautiful and helps us lose weight.
Lychee: Lychee is a tropical fruit orinated in China and Vietnam. They are also grown in the Northern part of India. The skin of Lychee fruit is red in colour and juicy white inside which is very sweet and tasty. Lychees are the good source of essential vitamin C. It is low in saturated fat, cholesterol and sodium and high in copper. The nutritional value of Lychee helps us in maintaining good health and weight loss. It is particularly good for gastrointestinal health. According to researchers this fruit may provide anti-breast cancer properties.
Chickoo: Also known as Sapodilla or Manilkara Zapota, chickoo is originated from Yucatan, south of Mexico and north east Guatemala. This fruit is popularly known as Chickoo in India, Pakistan and South Asia. By boiling chickoo with water, it is believed that the decoction is good for curing diarrhea. It is also believed that it is high in tanning.
Papaya: Eating papaya regularly helps us to maintain good health and energy. Ripe papaya is good for digestion and aids in constipation. It also helps prevent cancer in organs. This apart, it has bleaching properties for which it is used as an ingredient in soaps, lotions and other whitening products. This tropical fruit contains rich concentration of vitamin C which is an antioxidant that protects us from our own injured cells, skin and the entire immune system of our body.
Guava: Guava is a native of Carribean. It is one of the fine fruits for its richness in Vitimin A, B, and C. This apart they are also the good source of iron, calcium, potassium, iron and phosphorus. Guavas are cholesterol, saturated and sodium free, low in fat and calories, high in fiber. The diabetic patients can enjoy this fruit without its skin.
Watermelon: There are over 1200 varieties of watermelon and are grown in 96 countries worldwide. It is an ideal food without any fat or cholesterol. Watermelon is a good source of potassium and is rich in fiber and vitamins A and C. It is actually not a fruit but a vegetable that belongs to family of pumpkins and cucumbers. It basically quenches our thirst and also prevents from diseases like diabetes, asthma, colon cancer, arthritis etc.
Pears: Pears are sweet fruits that are related to the apple family. They vary in different colours like green, red, brown, yellow or a combination of any of these colours. While some pears are of bell-shaped, others are shaped round like an apple. Among all variety of pears, the Chinese pear is said to be having more medicinal values. But even the other varieties have their own nutritional values.
Consumption of pears helps in preventing high blood pressure and stroke, lowers cholesterol levels. It prevents cancer due to high Vitamin C and copper content act as good antioxidants. A glass of pear juice reduces fever quickly. The cooling effect in pear also helps prevent throat problems.
Pomegranate: According to studies pomegranate juice daily help support the normal blood flow to the heart due to which it reduces the risk of having heart diseases and heart attacks. The antioxidant properties in pomegranate keep away from forming bad cholesterol and also help in keeping the arteries clear of clots. It may also help reduce the risks of diabetes, cancer etc. This fruit is a good natural source of vitamins A, C, E and folic acid.
Pomegranate supports the blood by supplying it with iron which also may help protect anemia symptoms like weakness, dizziness, hear loss and exhaustion.
Muskmelon: Muskmelon also known as cantaloupe or netted melon is a small, oval and juicy fruit originated in Middle East. This fruit is rich in carbohydrate, protein, fiber, citric acid, vitamin A, B, B3, B6 and C. It controls high blood pressure, reduce the risk of getting kidney stones, prevent cancers, cardiovascular and prevent stroke and regulate heart beat.
Star Fruit: It is a tropical fruit that comes in two varieties. One variety is sweet, while the other is slightly sour. It is packed with vitamin C. To avoid getting cold and flu this is the best fruit to have during winters. This fruit also helps in weight loss as it is low in calories and fat. This fruit is highly recommended for people suffering from hypertension and heart problems because there is no cholesterol or sodium content in it. Star fruit is best for good health and is an anti-aging agent.
Peaches & Nectarines: Peaches are in red, pink, yellow, white, or a combination of those colors. Peaches and nectarines look very similar, but they can be identified by their skin texture. Peaches are fuzzy and dull, while nectarines are smooth and shiny.
According to researchers in China men and women who consumed peaches more than two times per week had less risk of developing cancers of the mouth than those who did not eat peaches. Though low in calories peaches are the source of vitamins, minerals, fiber and arytenoids.
The fiber content in peaches acts as a mild laxative, aids digestion, and may also help fight cancer. The fruit rich in Vitamin A and Vitamin C allows in cancer-fighting protect against heart disease. Peaches help ensure proper functioning of cells through iron and potassium content. It also helps protect against blindness caused by age-related macular degeneration.
Nectarine is low in saturated fat, sodium and cholesterol and high in Vitamin A, Vitamin C, Potassium, Fiber and Niacin. The nutritional value and health benefits of nectarines help in maintaining best health and weight loss but for those who wants to gain weight shall avoid eating nectarines.
Peach Fruit
Nectarine Fruit
Kiwi: Kiwi consists of vitamin A, C, E, fiber, enzymes, antioxidant, magnesium, potassium, phosphorus and copper. This fruit protect us from heart disease, stroke, asthma, cancer, diabetics, and respiratory-related diseases like wheezing, coughing and shortness of breath. This apart, it also strengthens our body and promotes healthier immune system.
Fig: Fig is one of the best fruits recommended for humans. This fruit as a source of food is very good and nutritious. Figs are low in fat and high in fibre that can reduce blood cholesterol. They are rich in iron, calcium, potassium, magnesium, and Vitamin B6. For those suffering from chronic constipation fig is the best fruit to relieve the disease. The high water content in the Fig clears the skin by acting as a cleanser.